It Ain't Easy

Marriage isn't easy.

That thought never really occurred to me when Chris and I got married back in 2001. Up until that point, we'd gone through some "rough patches", so I didn't have any illusions that it was going to be completely wonderful all the the time. Yet I still didn't really realize the amount of work it was going to take.

One of the complexities about marriage is the fact that people are always changing (ideally, anyhow). If both partners in a marriage are growing and changing, then it's only going to make sense that the marriage must grow and change as well. My relationship with Chris looks a lot different now than it did a decade ago. And in another 10 years, it's going to look different still.

It's so easy to get too comfortable in a marriage...to fall into the trap of complacency and laziness. It seems that's an all too comfortable part of being human...avoiding those things that require a lot of effort. One thing I've learned in my almost 34 years on this earth is that the things that are the hardest to do, are most worth it in the end. I guess that's at least one of the reasons why marriage, when it's good, can be so rewarding.